2011 in review
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2011 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,600 times in 2011. If it were a cable car, it would take about 27 trips to carry that many people.
Repercussions
On October 27, 2011, Lacey took a form to all of her teachers to sign because we were going to California to visit her brother Adam. He serves our country in the United States Army and he has been very ill for a long time.
Originally, I was just going to visit him but caring for Lacey has been a priority since her injury. I waited to see how everything would progress with Lacey re-entering school this year. Over all, this school year has been a much more positive experience. Most of the teachers have been very caring and supportive. But enough has happened that I did not feel that Lacey would be safe. My husband works a lot and we have no family here to help out if Lacey was in need of care. As I was delaying my visit again, my son offered to pay for Lacey’s trip so that she could be with me. Lacey has very good grades in all of her subjects and she and Adam have a very close relationship.
When Lacey showed her chemistry teacher, Mrs. C. the letter, Mrs. C. lost her composure as well as her respect for Lacey, me, and my husband. She became outraged. Her face was red, her lips were tight, her body was rigid, and her hands were clenched. This was happening in front of an entire classroom of students. She told Lacey that she was “outraged that your parents would take you out of school when you are just beginning” to feel comfortable. She said a few more things that eventually brought Lacey to tears, in front of the class. Lacey did explain again that it was to see her brother, “But he is sick.”
Lacey asked to be excused. She went to the bathroom and another student who had been standing with Mrs. C. and Lacey when the above took place, was also in the bathroom. She asked Lacey if she was okay when she saw her crying and she gave Lacey a hug.
Later in the day Mrs. C. did apologize to Lacey. “I’m sorry for what happened earlier.”
We arrived home last night. Lacey worked on some of her Chemistry homework. It was at that time that the stress of the above experience, the stress of not having her Chemistry homework completed (she has through this weekend to complete it, but Lacey wanted to have it all done for today.), and the stress of Lacey’s imagination mixed with experience overwhelmed her.
She cried several times last night. And vomited once.
I provided comfort and support and tried to keep Lacey grounded with what we knew. We knew Mrs. C. acted inappropriately and unprofessional. We knew that Mrs. C. apologized. We also knew the work didn’t have to be completed yet. We also know that at any time Lacey needs to escape a situation, she has her guidance counselor, Mrs. G., to go to for support.
I finally left a message for Mrs. G., so that she might be aware and have a better understanding of what Lacey is experiencing.
I have been nauseous all day myself, hoping that Lacey is doing well. My reason for writing this post is us to remember how important our words and our actions are. Mrs. C. was very unkind in her behavior, but she apologized. Does that apology erase the havoc and fear created within another? No. It does not. When you are healthy, this kind of experience may or may not be short-lived in its consequences produced. When you are injured and living with Post Concussion Syndrome, chances are that the repercussions of someone’s words and actions may linger well into the night, attempting to consume that of which it has no right to own.
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Sweet 16!
October, 2011
October 1
Lacey turned a beautiful Sweet 16! Her birthday dinner wish was Roasted Chicken served with homemade Blueberry Ketchup, Buttered Egg Noodles & Roasted Broccoli. Lacey made Christian (her boyfriend) eat big bites of blueberry ketchup with his chicken so that his teeth would turn blue. It worked and he smiled and plowed in for more chicken and blueberries. Lacey’s birthday cake was Chocolate Mousse from Jean-Marc Chatellier’s French Bakery.
We celebrated her birthday last night because today she played her tenor with the band for a football game and then a band festival.
We had 10 dozen cupcakes of red velvet, chocolate, and vanilla to celebrate with the band and there were enough for the football team. Lacey’s birthday cupcake was Pumpkin from the Oakmont Bakery.
October 8
Today was Homecoming! Lacey got her hair done at J.E.T. Salon.
All ready for a big night out…
Christian & Lacey, along with another couple, went out for dinner at a Mediterranean restaurant along the Allegheny River. They went to the dance and Lacey had the most fun she has had in a very long time. She danced all night except when they played club songs and she would go and sit down if the lights hit her wrong in her eyes. So she took occasional breaks and danced the night away.
Lacey having fun came along with a price. She was so physically exhausted that she slept a total of 24 hours over the next two days. When she was awake, she was very fatigued and was only able to lay around. I kept her home from school on Monday because of the fatigue. On Tuesday, she was still very tired and had cried at school. When she came home, she asked when her next Hyperbaric Oxygen Treatment was scheduled. It wasn’t scheduled so I called Dr. Morganti and he was able to give her 2 hours on Wednesday. She was still very tired until Friday, October 14th, but since then, she has been doing fantastic.
October 12
Lacey took the PSAT today. The guidance counselors had submitted an application twice to the college board to be able to provide Lacey with some modifications for the testing but they were denied both times. So we decided that we would see how Lacey does on the exam and then submit again depending on how she does. They did move her testing area from the gym to the library. Lacey does not feel very confident in her testing in math. We will have to wait and see.
October 21
Today I had to sit down and write an email to Lacey’s History teacher. I had worked with the guidance counselor regarding all of my concerns with this teacher for two months and things were not improving. He was not following her IEP at all. Lacey would come home from school and say “He just looks at me like he doesn’t know what he is supposed to do.” They had meetings all day, which was so nice to hear. Lacey came home from school and said how he was doing everything “so much better”. He responded back to me on Monday via email and it was so full of pathetic and lame excuses that I cannot even reply. This is his statement for giving Lacey notes in font 6 instead of 14, “As for the font, I am truly sorry that the notes were too small. When I printed them, I didn’t want to waste paper but I forgot that she needed it in larger font.”
Throughout the month, Lacey continued to play her tenor with the band for the football games and festivals. She continues with vision therapy as well. Her and Christian do their homework together every night. She can handle about 3 hours of homework and then she is just done. You can see it in her face. She gets pale and very tired. She is usually able to get all of it completed every night and if not, she finishes it during home room or study hall. Her grades are very good.
Lacey was feeling guilty for having modifications to her school work. I explained to Lacey that the purpose for her to have modifications was to allow her to be successful. If she had a full work load, she would be overwhelmed and the stress would fuel her symptoms and the vicious cycle of fatigue and headaches and sleepless nights would consume her again. She hasn’t said anything about this since and when she answers questions in her class, and the answers are correct, she beams with pride.
October 31
Halloween!
Yes, Lacey loves the camera! And they got a lot of candy. The firemen really liked their outfits and gave them extra candy bars!
To See or Not to See
Lacey had a dream that was very vivid. She has had quite a few vivid dreams since her injury but this was the first one for a while and after she told it to me, I felt that there was a lot of meaning being illustrated. We had the opportunity to discuss this with someone who is qualified in the science of psychology and trauma and what she discerned from the dream was quite remarkable.
In my dream, I saw that my right arm was cut off. I don’t know how or why it was cut off. Everyone around me was worried because they could see that my arm wasn’t there and I was in an ambulance. They wanted to take me to the hospital. I was telling the paramedics “No. I am not going to the hospital. I have to get ready for Homecoming and I need to get my hair done. I should be at J.E.T. Salon to get my hair done. I am not going to the hospital.” I got out of the ambulance and started walking toward the boulevard to go to J.E.T. I could see that my arm wasn’t there but I was able to see a ghost of my arm. And I was texting you (Mom). And my right thumb was able to text. I was able to see the ghost of my arm and I was able to use my arm. It was the other people who couldn’t see my arm. I woke up when I got to J.E.T.
Our friend, Gail, did find much to talk about regarding Lacey’s dream. She said many people have dreams about first responders and being rescued after they have experienced trauma. She also said that it was very interesting that Lacey could see her arm and use it with full function and that the other people in the dream were unable to. Gail said that others aren’t able to see Lacey at her fullest potential since her injury. They see her with a disability, a handicap. But Lacey doesn’t see herself that way. Lacey sees herself as a whole person that is able to do what she wants. She is able to focus on what is important, to stay on task and to live in the moment. That is a very good perspective for Lacey to have about herself. She knows that she needs to get ready for Homecoming and she is going to get her hair done.
I liked and was comforted that Lacey had something good to look forward to and that she was planning and preparing for that good thing to happen in her life.
Stop, Drop, and Breathe
Lacey has just finished day 4 of her sophomore year and she is doing really well. The really good news is that the school, teachers and administration all appear to be putting a great amount of effort to ensure that Lacey has a positive experience this year.
The brightly colored forms that were handed out on the 1st day of school became pale colors of paper for the rest of the week, & hopefully until she is completely recovered.
Normally, you would want a child with learning difficulties to be seated at the front of the classroom but in Lacey’s case, there isn’t very much space between the first row and the smart board in several of her classrooms. Then add in a teacher that paces during lecture. Dizziness ensued. Every teacher that needed to move Lacey’s seat to the 2nd row did so without any reservation.
There were a couple of issues that were presented as announcements in general but Lacey took the statements personally and thought she would fail Chemistry because we have morning appointments with her physicians and therapies. She also was worried that if she was tardy more than 10 times she would have to go to the magistrate. Lacey is well enough now that she was able to discuss everything with me without getting upset or too emotional. I was able to explain how those rules wouldn’t be applied to her because the explanations she would have for not being at school are medical reasons.
My goals for this week are to have a copy of all of Lacey’s school books at home so she doesn’t have to worry about bringing them home. I also need to get a receipt for the books we are responsible for so we can avoid paying for an unaccounted book months after we thought we returned it to the school. The teachers need to try to allow Lacey to leave their classroom when the bell rings so that she can get to the next class in time. I am checking into the reduced work load that she is supposed to have as well as the notes/outlines that are to be provided to her in a larger font. I am also really hoping that the school will give approval for Lacey to use her phone during school so that she can utilize some of the applications Brain Line Organization recommends for those with brain injury. You can check them out here: http://www.brainline.org/content/2011/05/23-lifechanging-iphone-ipad-apps-for-people-with-brain-injury.html
A short story regarding stress ~ Lacey and I were talking on Friday after school and she said “Mom, I have figured out what I am going to do whenever I feel stress coming on. I am going to Stop, Drop, & Breathe.” As she said this she took a nice long inhalation, closed her eyes, and slowly exhaled. Then she smiled.
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Making An Impact
This morning on KDKA radio, I woke up to hear Lacey’s neurosurgeon, Dr. Joseph Maroon, share some really exciting news about Dick’s Sporting Goods making a commitment to provide a baseline ImPACT test for 1 million student athletes across this great land of ours.
The Program: PACE… Protecting Athletes Through Concussion Education.
The Goal: To provide a baseline ImPACT test for 1 million student athletes.
The Plan: With public support, now through September 12, 2011, Dick’s Sporting Goods will donate $1 to the PACE Program for every pair of athletic shoes purchased in any of its stores. There are 449 stores! And they will donate if you order online at DicksSportingGoods.com What great opportunities we have! Let me tell you they are going all out for our kids with even more ways to raise money for the testing. Dick’s Sporting Goods will also donate an additional $1 for consumers who:
**Post about PACE on the Dick’s Sporting Goods Facebook page
**Tweet about PACE with the #DSGPACE hashtag
**Check-in to a Dick’s Sporting Goods location on Facebook Places or Foursquare.
For more information regarding ImPACT, please visit http://www.impacttest.com/
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